What is a Real Cougar Woman?
December 12, 2008 by Mrs. Robinson
Filed under Feature
What is a Real Cougar Woman? She is style, she is grace, she is smart, she is a leader. She has worked hard, learned a lot and excelled at whatever she chose to do. She doesn’t ever have to apologize for being successful – she has earned her stripes.
“Real Cougars” are business women, and they are wives and mothers. A “Real Cougar” is not defined by a band on her finger, it’s her attitude about life. She is a woman who is constantly looking for new opportunities and knows how to get what she wants. Sometimes things don’t work out exactly as she plans, but she grows from each and every experience.
In folklore a cougar quietly take control of a situation. Sometimes this can lead to conflict with others over territory. A cougar is associated with leadership and teaches decisiveness in the use of personal power.
True leadership through gentle assertiveness is what cougar teaches those with this totem. Cougar people are often very sure of themselves, not taking any unnecessary steps or exerting any extra energy beyond what is required of them to achieve their goal. Most cougars learn by trial and error, which strengthens them and hones their skills.
A cougar will leap at opportunities. They take control of their lives and circumstances most effectively.
5 Components of The Real Cougar Woman
Health & Wellness:
The Real Cougar Woman knows that feeling good is the most important thing. Her body is changing each decade. It’s her responsibility to keep it running at full capacity.
Beauty:
The Real Cougar Woman doesn’t want to look 25. However she understands the importance of looking sexy and fabulous for the age she happens to be.
Relationships:
The Real Cougar Woman knows that relationships are difficult to maintain. What’s interesting about being over 40 is your priorities change. Now it’s time to focus in on what you really want and stop pleasing everyone else.
Financial Freedom:
The Real Cougar Women knows the importance of being financially independent. Without that you never feel completely secure.
Mindset:
The Real Cougar Woman knows how important it is to have a mindset that’s programmed for success. Knowing how to tap into her spirit and her intuition is essential.
Aging is inevitable – how you age is always your choice!
This is hysterical! I stumbled on today’s cougar info while headed to my email site. I’m happy and proud to realize I’m a cougar and have been all my life!
I started dating younger “men” (well, boys really) while in my teens and the pattern has stuck with me ever since. My first husband was actually my age and probably the reason it didn’t last but four years, coupled with being young and naive. My second husband was seven years younger and we were married for 13 years until he lost his mind and left me for a woman he worked with and was his own chronological age. My current husband and I have been together 20 years this Spring and just celebrated our 17th wedding anniversary. I turned 63 yesterday and my husband is 43. We’ve had our rough spots for sure and his mother has never accepted me and has made life miserable for us both so that’s something we deal with consistently.
I enjoyed the definition “What is a Real Cougar Woman?”, especially the last sentence where it says she never has to apologize for being successful-she has earned her stripes. No truer words ever spoken since I retired three years ago this month from the United Stated Air Force as an E-9, Chief Master Sergeant!! For those who do not know, that is the top rank for an enlisted member of the military and it is only held by 1% of the entire military and women are still only a small portion of the top three ranks in the service.
It’s my proudest career accomplishment and my husband was at my side for my last three ranks and was an integral part of my making this last stripe. He is military also but a lower rank and has always been proud of my success. Older military men tend to be jealous of women who make rank and do in fact outrank them and I have met several fellow Chiefs who have made it quite clear that I probably didn’t actually “earn” my rank but rather slept my way to the top. I got used to that perception early on in my career but it still stings every now and then to think people might actually believe that nonsense. I worked hard and earned my way to the top, period.
When my husband and I started dating he confessed that the attraction was more than physical…it was my intellect, the lack of game-playing, sophisticated interests (no concern about what color nail polish I would be wearing that night), my volunteerism and my religious beliefs.
My major career is now over, my husband retired from the military the same year I did and has gone on to a second very successful career, which I can now support wholeheartedly. I chose not to continue working for pay but rather give back to the community and my family through volunteer work and helping my daughters out with our grandchildren.
My husband has never been a father but he is a grandfather seven times over and is a great one! My daughters are his contemporaries in age and it was a little touchy at first but as the years have gone on they’ve become close; as friends. Our grandchildren are his children and the great part about it is that he became a grandfather at a young age and can still do all the fun physical things that many grandfathers can’t do!
After reading this article I went on to read others on cougars and must admit some are a little too sleazy for my liking. I felt this article was right on target and balanced where some others hype up the sex and the “preying” on younger men. Nothing could be further from the truth in my situation and I’d love to talk to some TRUE cougars and find out how things happened for them. My man approached me, pursued me and it took quite a while for me to take him seriously and continue dating him. As I mentioned earlier, there was non-acceptance by his family and my daughters thought it was “okay” to date him but definitely didn’t want me to get serious. This very same pattern was true with my second husband also even though the age difference wasn’t that significant.
In sum, I guess I find it flattering to think I can be included in the same group of women as Cher (have always loved her), Susan Sarandon, Demi Moore and Madonna. I’m not famous but we obviously have a lot in common. Amen!
What a celebration of freedom! A friend that lives in Las Vegas told me about this tonight (1/22/09). A program I would hope would be offered at this convention is a series of programs/conference to enlighten women of age. What I hope is not attending are women that are ashamed of their age and are botoxed to death with enuff silicone impants to float a large barge and the “tornado blowing thru” facial expression. Women have come to the realization that they can provide their own happiness and can control their future. My hats off to the participants of this conference and the brain child that pulled this together. Wish I would have heard about this sooner; see ya next year!